The past year has thrust us all into change, and as we know, change can be hard even when you agree to it and have it planned. With physical distancing, rolling lockdowns, and the shifting landscape of what we can do when and with how many, I compel myself to remember that although we can’t completely control all of our surroundings, we can absolutely control how we react.
When the first set of lock downs arrived, I had just returned from back-to-back weekends of teaching in Atlantic Canada. I had a trip to England scheduled, a full show season planned out, and a bustling roster of students to teach. And then it all stopped. I went through the 5 stages of grief:
- Denial – I can reschedule my trip, after all this won’t last long… show season won’t really change… I will just take a week or two to slow down and eat some mini eggs and then life will return to ‘normal’.
- Anger – I’m not generally an angry person but with the mini egg supply dwindling, I definitely verged on anger. I busied myself with angry baking, angry cleaning and angry re-organizing.
- Bargaining – Maybe I can trade something for mini eggs? Or try other types of chocolate?
- Depression – The mini egg supply is gone… I’ve cleaned all the tack… this is it, the hardship begins.
- Acceptance – This one is a powerful one. Acceptance gives us the power to move forward. The power to understand where we currently stand and to then allow us to chart a path forward. The whole cycle is incredibly like one we use in coaching:
- Observe
- Analyze
- Interpret
- Plan
- Prepare
- Perform
For me, with acceptance came the ability to plan, prepare and perform with clarity. And with that came some pretty cool opportunities I might have otherwise missed:
- Paperless competition scoring:
- Finding the Compete Easy Software by Nominate has opened a flood of ideas around the way the sport is scored and how to make it easier for organizers volunteers and competitors. Thank goodness I have a genius sister who fearlessly embraced the concept.
- Facility layout and timing:
- With physical distancing and contact tracing now being a focus on a daily basis we implemented a sign up and tracking schedule for our boarders. This has allowed people to better plan their outing to the barn and feel confident when they are here that they can best use their time.
- Meal planning and Family time:
- Being able to sit down and enjoy dinner when most families would was not a norm in our pre-pandemic life. When we ran out of mini-eggs in the first lock down we came to the stark realization that someone would have to volunteer as tribute and go to the grocery store.
- We began sitting down as a family and planning our meals for the week, and then enjoying those meals together. We’ve gotten to know each other better as people and appreciate our similarities and our differences.
- Riding:
- This may come as a surprise but I enjoy riding. And because sometimes we flow along with life in a way that perhaps doesn’t cause us to pause to analyze or interpret, riding had slowly moved down my priority list of things to do. We need to do things that give us happiness, pleasure and peace, just as riding does for me. I had gotten so busy with so many other things that I had forgotten this. When the school horses needed to get back to work after the first lock down I picked up the ball and was quickly reminded of the happy place that is the back of a horse.
- Teaching:
- I love teaching, the pandemic hasn’t changed that. Through the first lock down I spent more time not teaching than ever in my adult life.
- The time off teaching found me doodling lesson plans on everything. Progressions for old lesson plans became clearer. How one training session built upon the next would wake me up at night.
- The break became a bit of a reboot and time to digest the thousands and thousands of lessons I have taught. It gave me an opportunity to feel re-energized about my passion to teach.
- The Sport:
- I get goosebumps when I think about watching a horse and rider cross the finish line (both figuratively and literally).
- Seeing horse and rider in harmony moving as distinct but bonded athletes is extraordinary.
- Working my way through the twists and turns of the past year has given me the opening to remember why the sport of Eventing means so much to me. To watch horse and rider demonstrate their speed, agility, bravery, training and partnership is so incredibly special.
I was asked once by the parent of a student what the secret to the sport was.
In the words of Mr. Ping, ‘There is no secret ingredient. To make something special… you just have to believe it is special.’
In 2021 Oakhurst Farm is hosting its very first FEI Event and we believe that it will be incredibly special. The amazing volunteers, competitors and supporters of this Event will be the secret ingredients. To check out more and to be a part of it check out www.oakhurstevents.ca
See you there!
Ruth
P.S. If you don’t know who Mr. Ping is, grab a bag of Mini Eggs and watch Kung Fu Panda… you might be pleasantly surprised by the secrets you discover.
